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Thursday, January 30, 2014
Monday, December 16, 2013
Christmas - A Time For Family
In my collection of days, there never is a day that passes that doesn't either remind me of family, that I don't speak to a family member, or I fail to experience what
it means to be a part of a family. As
Christmas approaches, I am keenly aware of all kinds of families, which aren’t
all as mine is, and I stop to ponder just what is going on in this world.
I always believed that families were a special entity,
designed to love, support, build up, and take care of each other. Even in my darkest days, when I was reminded
by a family member that I had disgraced our family name, I was never abandoned
by my family, or made to feel like I was not a part of my family. They circled the wagons around me, protected
me as best they could, prayed for me, and more than anything, loved me. Even though many members of my family are not
close to me geographically, with cell phones, texting, Facebook, and yes, even
snail mail, we stay in touch with each other on a regular basis. We are bound together by our heritage and
our DNA, and the family ties are ones that can be pulled and stretched, but
never shredded or broken. Families are
treasures that should be cherished and protected with all our might.
This brings me to something that breaks my heart. I have some very close friends whose families
are not like mine, or display the concept of family that I so strongly believe
in. I don’t understand it. There are mothers whose grown children have
not spoken to them in over a year, fathers who have been cut off from their
children for reasons that they don’t understand, and children who have not been
in contact with their parents or siblings in many years. As I
talk to these friends, I listen to their stories, wondering what has happened
to the family. Where is the love? Where is the compassion? Where is the forgiveness? Where is the heart that is supposed to be at
the heart of family? What has happened
to the family?
It is Christmastime.
It is time to celebrate family, set aside differences, forgive
transgressions and failures, rejoice in victories, and bask in the love of
God. While we stop to think about the
birth of Jesus, we also need to think about what he taught during his ministry. He didn’t teach us to abandon or judge
members of our family because we don’t agree with them. He didn’t teach us to turn our backs on our
children or our parents because they hurt our feelings or made us angry. He didn’t teach us to hold a grudge against
members of our family who have slipped along their path. He taught us to forgive, to love, and to
reflect God and God’s love through our lives.
As I think about all these things, I am reminded of a young woman
I have recently met. Her story is one of
troubles, drug abuse,the loss of a child, and a myriad of problems that would make
many people cut and run. Her mother is
an alcoholic who was never an ideal candidate for Mother of the Year at any
time in this young woman’s life.
However, as this beautiful young woman has gotten her life back on solid
ground, she has never stopped loving her mother or trying to help her. While she is not rewarded by her mother with
support and love, she continues to be a part of her mother’s life, always
hoping that she will change. She makes
these other families look pitiful in contrast, because she knows the importance
of family, even a far from perfect one.
It is not a pretty story, but she gives me hope for other families.
I am thankful for my family, and my wish at Christmas is
that everyone will rediscover something about family that may have been
forgotten, buried, hidden, or brushed aside for one reason or another. My wish is that forgiveness and love will
triumph where hurt and disappointment has tarnished the beauty of family.
Christmas is a family time of year.
Sunday, October 13, 2013
Viet Nam - Then and Now
I wonder how many of my blog readers remember these?
It was a Fall day in 1972 at the University of Georgia. As I got off of the campus bus on my way to
class, I stopped at a table outside the student center to see what was being
sold. The table was covered with
bracelets just like this one. The young
woman at the table explained to me that they were POW/MIA bracelets with the
names of soldiers engraved on them. For
$5, I could purchase one and wear it until the person whose name was on my
bracelet was either released or found. I
didn’t have $5 to spare that day, but I selected a bracelet, put it on my
wrist, and let go of my beloved $5 bill.
I wore the bracelet until the war ended and the prisoners of
war were released. I searched the
newspaper for the name of my soldier, but I never saw his name. I placed the bracelet into my “treasure box”,
and over the years forgot about it.
This fall I have been re-introduced to the Viet Nam War
through a special veteran friend, and from meeting another veteran and two young Vietnamese
men who are now in charge of a not-for-profit organization in Viet Nam, Project Renew, to find and disarm unexploded
munitions left there from the war. What
I knew about the war, and more, has entered my life through these
individuals. Then, to top it off, I
watched a special on television last night about The Smothers Brothers and
television censorship. It was an
excellent program and brought back memories of those war years that I had tucked away.
The other day while I was going through some of my
possessions that I retrieved from my house this past summer, I found my POW bracelet. Gone was my treasure box, but in the bottom
of a garbage bag that Phil had filled for me to take to my new home, gently lay
the silver bracelet. Now that we are in the information age, I was
able to Google my soldier’s name. I was
delighted to discover that he was released from prison in Viet Nam, and was not
one of the war’s casualties.
As I think about these days in my life, spread out over four
decades, it is amazing to me how the threads have woven together to bring this
story to its conclusion. However, as I
think about it, I realize that the story isn’t over. The Viet Nam War is still with us in the
veterans who survived and carry memories of their days there, and in the Vietnamese
people who today are the victims of explosions of bombs we left behind. I am
grateful to the Americans and Vietnamese of Project Renew who continue working
to heal the wounds we inflicted to this faraway land. I wonder what happened to my soldier of the
POW bracelet, and if he is still alive.
I may never know, but I am thankful that I found my bracelet, have been
re-awakened to the Viet Nam experience, and have concluded this chapter in my collection
of days.
Now, it is a new day.
What will it bring?
Sunday, September 15, 2013
Goodbye Sweet Ellie
I arrived at the kennel early Thursday morning with only one
thing on my mind – sweet Ellie, the German Shepherd. Ellie has been boarding at Ashley Hills since
long before I began working here, but for the past year-and-a-half, she has become
one of my dearest canine friends. This
particular morning was special. Today
was Ellie’s last day to board with us.
Tomorrow her life here on earth would end, as she is escorted into
eternity and all of her pain will be over.
I wanted to have a few minutes with her alone before our day began in
earnest, and to pet her and talk to her on this final day at the kennel.
Ellie is special. She
is a beautiful German Shepherd with a gentle disposition and dark liquid
eyes. She is a regular guest, because
her owner traveled a good bit in her work and wanted Ellie to stay where she
was loved and cared for. Ever since I
have been here, a year-and-a-half, Ellie has been suffering from hip dysplasia,
which has caused her to have increasing pain and trouble getting around. While she has had happy times of frolicking
with other dogs, those days became fewer and fewer in the recent months. When she stays with us, she is visited and
treated by an animal acupuncturist and a dog chiropractor. She also discovered swimming a few weeks ago,
where she learned that being in the water made her feel young and whole
again. She loved the pond!
For her last days, her owner brought her to us to stay
overnight. She got to go for a swim in
the pond, play on the training field with her German Shepherd friend, Rommel,
and receive one of Ashley’s wonderful baths, which she came out of “smelling
like a girl.” We loved on her, gave her
a zillion hugs and kisses, and at the end of the day when her mama came to pick
her up, we told her good-bye through tear-filled eyes.
What more is there to say or write? Ellie, you will always hold a place in my
heart. I am happy that our paths in life
crossed.
Sunday, July 21, 2013
Hitching My Wagon to a Star
I’m not sure where I heard this phrase, but it has become
part of my vocabulary, and I use it often when talking to people about their
relationships, dreams, and goals.
This past week in New York City, I found myself in a
conversation with a fascinating young man who was attending Brian’s private
screening of his movie, “Checking In.”
As we became acquainted through our conversation, I learned that Brian
had recently officiated at the wedding of this gentleman and his partner. He shared with me some of his feelings about
how wonderful it was to be married to the man he loved and to be able to call
his partner his husband. I said something about him hitching his wagon
to the star of his partner, from which a new conversation began about what the
phrase means. I also commented that I
felt that Brian tied a strong knot whenever he officiated at a marriage, to
which he smiled and confirmed that he believed his knot was secure.
I have been single for over a year now. I have met a couple of men that I liked, but until
this past April, none whose star shone brightly and strongly enough for me to think
about hitching my wagon to. Now, as I
move through the first stages of a new relationship, I am re-thinking this
phrase, and wondering if it is applicable to my life anymore. At sixty-five, I consider whether I want to
hitch my wagon to another’s star, or if maybe I’d prefer to pull up alongside his
star and travel side by side while still hitched to my own star. Or perhaps we could hitch our individual
wagons in tandem to both of our stars and travel the universe together while
not fully letting go of our own vehicles. Could this make our journeys through life
easier - us sharing each other’s load? Would
this be possible in a healthy relationship?
I’d like to think it could.
I have to admit that I am a bit shell-shocked after my last
experience. I trusted totally, and followed
blindly behind a star that was in its last stages before burning out in
tragedy. I thought I was smart and strong, but I wasn’t. It has left me somewhat bewildered and
befuddled about relationships, questioning if I will ever be able to be in a
healthy and solid relationship. I find
myself insecure about myself and my ability to love, and often in a confused
state of mind. I don’t want to ruin
what I have found, because this new one is a rare gem, and one I don’t want to
lose or throw away.
Can I hitch my wagon to his star, and do I want him to hitch
his to mine? I don’t know. On this day in my collection of days, I
ponder life and relationships, and hope that somehow the right path will be
revealed to me.
I also hope I don’t
crash my wagon in the process!
Wednesday, June 19, 2013
Longing for the Ordinary
Extraordinary days in an ordinary life….this is the title of
my blog. I am beginning to believe that
my life is extraordinary, and I would love to have an ordinary day! Recently, none of my days have been ordinary,
and I am reeling from the adrenaline flow, the pushing and pulling from tension
and stress, and from riding the emotional
waves of my life.
This morning I am sitting in the family waiting area at
Saint Joseph’s Hospital while a friend has knee replacement surgery. He didn't want to burden his children with feeling they needed to change their daily schedules for him, so I volunteered to bring him this morning and be with him
today. While sitting here all morning has not been my
idea of a fun day, it has allowed me to do some writing, catch up on
correspondence, and to spend a little down time with no interferences
bombarding me.
This past month has been one of reflection and introspection
squeezed in with record numbers at the boarding kennel where I work, creating
hectic and harried days, and causing my mind to reel and my body to scream at me
to slow down. Emotions have been resting
on the surface of my skin, bringing forth free-flowing tears, a grand showing
of my stubborn streak, and a severe case of tunnel vision. I have not been an easy person to be around. I have also discovered that the past couple
of years of my life have done some damage I had not been aware of. I am having a terrible time learning to trust
again, of allowing myself to open up and be vulnerable, and of being able to
express my feelings in a comprehensible language. I have footprints all over my face from
putting my foot into my mouth, and a few bruises where my words have caused my
foot to kick me squarely in the face! I
have not been very happy with myself.
I wrote in my journal this morning in an attempt to
understand my patchwork quilt of recent feelings and emotions. I dare not go back and read it – I am afraid
it may not make much sense! I’d like to
exchange this quilt for a monotone colored blanket of dull and faded
colors. I want a little ordinary in my
life more than anything in this world right now. A
little normal would be mighty nice.
As I sit here waiting, the ordinariness of this waiting room
comforts me while I listen to bits and pieces of conversations as people
discuss the surgeries that are happening behind the big brown double doors, and
as I tune in on phone conversations informing loved ones of successful operations. I also can’t help but overhear conversations
of people sharing tidbits of life as they wait for the doctor to walk through
the doors. This is life. This is an extraordinary day for a room full
of ordinary people.
And I am one of them.
Somehow this makes me feel better.
Thursday, April 11, 2013
To Fly!
One of my favorite pet owners brought his two dogs, Kendra
and Kincade, into the kennel today to board for a few days. Tracy and I enjoy chatting when he brings the
dogs to stay with us, and our conversations can cover just about any topic. Today, we began talking about wishes coming
true.
Tracy asked me, “If you could have one wish come true: to
either fly or be able to read other people’s minds, which one would you choose?”
No hesitation at all for me!
To fly! That would be my one wish.
He nodded in agreement and said that he would wish the same thing. I told
Tracy about my recurring childhood dream of being able to fly, and he told me
that he had similar dreams. From the
topic of flying, we segued into cloud gazing, only to find that we both enjoy
the same sport, as clouds are integral ingredients in the world of flight!
My childhood dream is so vivid, I can picture it as I sit
here typing. It follows the theme of
Peter Pan, as the children are sprinkled with pixie dust and float out of the
nursery window on their journey to Never Never Land. In my dream, I am in my bed, and a fairy
appears waving a wand over my body, sprinkling sparkly dust all over me. As the sparkles touch me, I begin to float
and soon find myself high above my bed.
I use my arms and legs to propel myself through my bedroom window, where
I soar above the trees in our backyard, and float with the night breeze toward
the moon. I am not afraid, but fully caught up in the sensation
of drifting higher and higher above the earth.
The dream never had an ending or a conclusion – I would always wake up
while in mid-flight!
To fly! I still have
that wish and dream. My spirit soars
with the wind and rides the clouds, but my body remains glued to the
earth. I gaze at clouds, wishing they
were the pillows of fluff that they appear to be from my vantage point on
earth, and long to jump into them, leap from one to another, and feel their
softness against my skin as I tumble into them
and become enveloped in them as one does in a down mattress . I also gaze at the nighttime sky, and want to
explore the galaxies. The black velvet of the nighttime sky beckons
me as I dream of dancing from star to star and sitting on the crescent moon to
observe all of God’s creation around me.
It is a dream, only a dream.
But perhaps one day I will be able to fly, and my dream will come
true. When it does, I hope I’ll be able
to write about it to share with you!
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